Make Your First Impression Your Best Impression
Have you ever heard the phrase, “It’s not what’s on the outside that matters, but what’s on the inside that counts”? Although I agree that true power comes from within, our physical appearance is still the first thing people see when we show up.
That being said, if you saw yourself walk into a room, what would you think? What do you imagine others would think?
Research shows it takes only seconds for people to form an opinion of your level of competence and composure. Once first impressions are set, they’re nearly impossible to change. If you take this into account, you can make life a lot easier by putting thought and time into projecting the image you want the world to see right from the start.
In this newsletter, we will talk about how to make yourself appear open, observant, and confident, and how it pertains to first impressions.
Clothing.
Because your clothing can have a powerful impact on how others perceive you, always consider your audience when you’re picking out your wardrobe. If, for example, you’re addressing a group of corporate executives, wearing a brightly colored outfit may make you look less professional, and in turn your input less impactful. Yet, if you’re an elementary school teacher, wearing bright colors is probably an excellent choice because children love exuberant things.
Openness.
Try to imagine your posture right now through the eyes of someone else. Do you appear open? Welcoming? Confident? What kind of shifts can you make in how you’re positioned to better create that impression? Start by making yourself physically open - arms and legs uncrossed, palms unhidden. Keep your hands out of your pockets or resting on a table if you’re seated across from someone.
Eye contact.
When you make eye contact, it increases that person’s trust and confidence in you. It shows that you’re engaged and interested in what they have to say, that they’re worthy of your time and attention. You want the person you’re reading to feel like they matter to you and maintaining easy eye contact with them is a great way to create this impression.
Fidgeting.
Just as fidgeting can signify anxiety or nervousness when you observe it in another person, the same is true of you. If you notice that you’re going into a conversation full of nervous energy, try some breathing or meditative exercises to calm yourself first.
